Celebrating the International Year of the Family (IYF)15TH May 2014
Parenting in Africa Network (PAN) is a network of member organisations with a focus on promoting skillful parenting in Africa. PAN’s is drawn from the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC) and the African Charter on Rights and Welfare of the Child (ACRWC) to advocate for the rights of children by focusing on specific issues that affect African families.
In marking the 20th anniversary of the International Year of the Family (IYF), Parenting in Africa Network (PAN) shall host a regional experts’ meeting on 13th -14th in Nairobi, Kenya.
What parents should know is that nobody is perfect and you'll likely make some mistakes, both big and small, as you raise your child. This is just a normal part of parenting and it is not likely to have lasting effects on your kid, as long as you work hard not to repeat the mistakes. However, consistently poor parenting can have negative consequences during childhood and beyond. It is very imperative to understand such things and it helps you to make the best decisions you can for your child.
Trust is one other important element which parent should ensure that a child trusts. If you promise to take your child to the mall to pick out a new dress for the upcoming dance, but don't follow through, she might get the idea that she can't trust you to do what you say you're going to do. If you repeatedly tell your child that he/she can come to you and talk about anything, but then you explode in anger when she reveals something you don't want to hear, the child probably won't feel like she can trust you next time something big happens. This lack of trust could mean your child is doing things on her own and with friends that you don't know about.
Furthermore, having a poor parent might make a child feel unloved and abandoned, whether you truly feel that way or not. Lack of support from parents and harsh or negative parenting strategies might increase the risk of depression in children. Not every child who gets depressed has bad parents, but not having a parent to turn to during the childhood years can result in mood disorders as a child gets older. If you feel that your child is depressed, see a mental health professional to determine the cause so you can address it.
However, others may continue the cycle of making poor parenting decisions when they have children of their own as it was noted the Journal of Family Health Care. Many parents do the things their parents did to them when they were growing up because that is all they know. Malawi, YONECO is a member of PAN and it has been engaged in several parenting activities whereby trained volunteers facilitate and discuss issues that affect parenthood, and the welfare of children at community level.