Friday, 20 December 2013

HIV Positive Kids Should Know Their Status



It’s been four months since I came across a certain incident and I have been thinking about it and thought it wise to share it with you today.

I met a child who was severely beaten up by his mother and surprisingly it seemed there was no apparent reason. The child had bruises all over his body and he was going towards a clinic. Several things got my attention, firstly the bruises and then a health passport he was carrying and the fact that he was alone in such a terrible condition he was in. 

 The aforementioned factors commanded my attention and I was eager to establish a few facts. I just found myself asking the kid some questions and one shocking truth I got from his responses was that the perpetrator was his own mother. I mumbled, ‘how could she?’

 To my surprise the child told me that he was not going to the hospital because he was beaten up but it was the doctor who told him to go and get some medical drugs on that particular date. The kid further expressed dismay over the doctor’s insistence on his going to the hospital to correct the drugs which he takes on a daily basis as if he is sick.

The kid explained to me that his mother was very furious and threatened to kill him when he showed her where the doctor scribbled something for him to show her. The little boy was very eager and impatient to know what the doctor wrote that made his mother angry up to an extent of beating him up.

The little boy humbly asked me to read out for him but I ignored considering the fact that it was his privacy. Even though he insisted, I had to respect his privacy but I decided to meet his mother no matter how far the kid’s home might be.

 ‘Please guardian disclose the status to the child’ were the words that were scribbled on the left hand side margin of a page somewhere inside the kid’s health passport. The mother had some tears in her eyes as she was showing me the message. Her face registered a lot of sorrow and attempts to hide her dilemma were futile. I realized that the parent was failing to tell the boy that he was HIV positive and instead she was playing hide and seek thereby making the situation worse.

But the time is now that parents and guardians should know that keeping such information from children does more harm than good. Its time parents and guardians of children who were born with HIV to be open with the kids and provide them with the information in simple terms that they can understand. We should have confidence in the child’s ability to cope and understand.


If the parent can’t manage to disclose alone, there may be counselors or social workers available who can help you  disclose their status; these people are very experienced with regard to disclosure and can offer valuable information that will help the child.

A kid who knows his/her status can easily avoid infecting others…

20 comments:

Robert said...

So sad indeed that this happened withing Malawi. I am curious to know why this mother started beating the innocent child. Did she think the child got the disease from women??? As Yoneco, is there something you can do with us heartless mothers? Otherwise the article gives us a very good experience for a starting point on how to pin down such mothers with bad attitude towards children of God. on the other hand, lets take our children whom we guard in time to hospital for early check up of our health status, or else we seize to be guadians!!!!

Godwin said...

Maybe its time we intensify campaigns or sensitization on child protection and HIV/AIDs know your status. This checking up of our health status starts with gurdians, it would be easier to understand the status of our children. I urge yoneco not only to focus on youths but integrate your activities with that of adults so that we minimise child abuse from adults, if you what I mean (Educate the leader first before he/she can take care of children), so integrated youth/adult learning would be very ideal.

Chisomo said...

Parents lets have that confidence and courage by telling our young ones about they status when they are growing. Its like killing the nation if we choose to hide the truth

Victor Mkolongo said...

it leaves a lot to be desired, personally I do not blame the mother but the community members as well as family members who are close to the mother. It could be that the mother did not get full support from the people within her neighborhood to the extent that she was totally disturbed and was doing things due to psychological disorder. Sometimes people that are living positively are discriminated by the community and the society at large. We all have a role to play in identifying such cases and refer them to local structures when need be otherwise we can as well directly deal with them using appropriate approach.

Chrispin Chadzamila said...

Victor Mkolongo am supporting your argument.

faithzumazuma said...

many thanks to all for taking the time to comment.your comments are superb.

faithzumazuma said...

Robert thanks for wonderful comment and great question,as YONECO we arrange psychological counseling sessions for such parents and also for the affected children.

sithembile said...

faithzumazuma nice piece keep on informing us.i love your blogs.

faithzumazuma said...

thank you sithembile for taking the time to read and for the wonderful comment.

Robert said...

Oky faithzumazuma. However, the problem is those parents might be unaware, so lets make them aware through intensive awareness campaigns!!

faithzumazuma said...

Robert i agree with you,that's another thing that has to be considered when implementing different projects on HIV/AIDS.

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