Setting up limits and boundaries (dos and don'ts) sounds
like a self-defeating concept. Most
young people feel that it is like employing yourself as a prison warden to
limit your own freedoms. However, living a life of recklessness with no
principles or what so ever, is a prison where they lock themselves into.
This
abruptly happens without realizing that the other option was where interminable
freedoms were. Why would a young person just do anything that comes to his/her mind and just put into action what ever the
peers are saying?
Bluntly, an irresponsible life is like being brought, while
blindfolded, to a very big prison with a very big yard where you cannot see the barbed-wire fences. It is a kind of prison where you brave the hardships just
because you are ignorant of where you are. Day in day out, you feel as if you
are happy and force yourself to be in a jovial mood. One thing that is for sure
is that you cannot go anywhere unless you know that you are in a prison and you
are innocent – You will be allowed out.
One sad thing is that most young people who imprisoned themselves
in this gigantic prison are on death row even though they are innocent. Once they realize that they are in a prison,
they can simply say I want to get out and they will be unconfined right on the
spot. One sad thing is that most young people realize this and try to say I
want to get out on their last day, during their last second. On this last day, it
is difficult to reverse things and nobody goes out of this prison on his or her
last day… No, matter how hard you shout, you still face the electric chair!
The above account of an analogy between a reckless life and
life in a prison without your knowledge is really applicable to the way some
young people live and ruin their precious young lives. They feel that abstinence from sex is
impossible even though it is very possible. They reach an extent of engaging
themselves in unprotected sex. They have
a choice to have sex if their efforts to abstain have been futile so long as
they protect themselves from STIs as well as HIV infection and unwanted
pregnancies etc.
However, due to the
fact that they are in a prison, they feel constrained and fail to explore
better options. They subconsciously feel very limited and they do not even
expect that there are choices they make. Prisoners are not choosers; they
simply get what is available in their vicinity! The consequences of unsafe sex
cannot be overemphasized; it is a long list that includes unwanted early
pregnancies as well as contraction of HIV and STIs.
If you are young person and you are in this kind of a
prison, just shout; I want to get out! and you shall be let free to enjoy
your young life and to plan for your future!
Now! There are several ways that can help young people to
avoid finding themselves in such a mess. Among the ways is to seek advice from people
who are well versed in matters that concern sexual and reproductive health like
Youth Friendly Health Service (YFHS) Providers, youth development oriented organisations
and institutions like YONECO.
Does a person who is on death row plan for his or her
future outside the prison walls? If you are in, now is the time for you to get
out of this prison and focus on who you want to be in the future!
2 comments:
Lemani,I really like the analogy...many young people do not consider the aftermath of what they call sexual 'escapades' hence they indulge in unprotected sex, heavy drinking- its time they went out of this prison!
Lemani,I really like the analogy...many young people do not consider the aftermath of what they call sexual 'escapades' hence they indulge in unprotected sex, heavy drinking- its time they went out of this prison!
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